Women represent to the male narcissist the greatest
potential threat for sustaining a narcissistic injury. Narcissists, for this one reason, fear the female gender, but do not
evidence their fear when associating with females. Instead their behavior and words indicate a dislike and distrust of female
motives and intentions.
The narcissist is incapable of coping with the
myriad array of emotions that women are capable of displaying. Dealing with these feminine emotions is a potential and real
threat to the narcissist's image as a man or a lover. Female sentiments mentally tax the narcissist. Because he exhausts so
much energy thinking about himself, he doesn't have the vigor to handle female emotions. Since he knows that he is incapable
of sustaining a meaningful relationship with a woman he sees these emotions as an even greater threat for narcissistic injury.
A narcissist is skilled at the art of verbal
abuse and the narcissist is proficient at verbally abusing women. Narcissists like to frustrate women. Their behavior toward
a woman keeps her on the edge of insanity because she doesn't know what is coming next. The narcissist uses what he deems
the blunt or brutal truth to eat away at any attributes that a woman might have. The woman is left with no self-esteem when
the narcissist is through with her. This is the way he wants her. If her self esteem is not in tact he can gain control over
her and retain her as narcissistic supply.
Narcissists proficiently spin a web of suspense
around themselves. They feed on the idea that they are mysterious to others. This is an additional way they have of aggravating
And, please ladies don't invade the narcissist's
personal space. Remember the narcissist can occupy your personal space anytime he wants because he considers himself "special".
If you cross the threshold of his personal space get ready to encounter a narcissistic rage.
The narcissist may sign a marriage certificate,
but in his mind he is never "really married" to you. He has simply captured you as a source of narcissistic supply. You are
either financially advantageous to him, increase his status, or with your beauty you are an enhancement on his arm.
Narcissists do not enjoy sex or want to have
sex with those that they consider to be significant others (wives, girlfriends). But, they will jump at the chance to have
sex with a woman they consider to be a vamp. Sex with significant others requires intimacy and a narcissist is incapable of
achieving intimacy with others. Narcissists are prone toward having a Madonna/Vamp Complex.
He uses denial as a defense mechanism and does
not see his extracurricular affairs as being adultery. He reasons that there are no "emotions involved" in these affairs so
he is not cheating. He fails to admit to himself and others, however, that for him there are no emotions involved in his marriage
either. He simply is not capable of feeling any emotions even in his marriage.
The narcissistically disordered cannot fall
for another and make a relationship with a woman into a true partnership of a sexual or platonic nature. Their disorder prohibits
their abilities to manage either kind of situation. Women sooner or later will desire intimacy. This will over shadow all
other parts of the relationship and for the narcissist the relationship will become unworkable. A narcissist can never feel
another's love and is completely incapable of returning anything that looks like love to his female partner.
And, if you think that you have "fixed" him,
think again. If you want to secure two-three months of a seemingly normal marriage or relationship, either threaten to leave
him or leave him. He will pursue you relentlessly. When you're back in his hold securely, he will immediately revert back
to his old self.
Women may over look the grandiosity and attention
seeking of the narcissist, but the lack of the narcissist's ability to exchange feelings of a loving kind is deadly to all